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You’re scrolling through Instagram and you find yourself obsessing over others’ lives in pictures.
As soon as you get off the app, questions like “why don’t I have that?” or “I wish I had their lives” start to bubble up.
Do you ever feel that way?
It might sound silly, but I was one of those.
Comparing myself to others was what caused me to stress about a life others where living.
I felt as though social media magnified others’ lives to feel as though it was mocking my own life for what I didn’t have and haven’t done.
I’m a little ashamed of it, yes. But I’ll be the first to admit it.
Fortunately, I read ‘Girl, Wash your face’ by Rachel Hollis and it was exactly what I needed to quit the comparison game and start enjoying my life.
Rachel said, “Comparison is the death of all joy and the only person you need to be better than is the one you were yesterday.”
She’s right! I shouldn’t have to kill my joy over other people’s lives.
And you shouldn’t have to either.
Why Do We Compare?
Comparing ourselves is (I’m just going to say it) an insecurity we have.
When we do that, we are telling ourselves that we are not enough (or don’t have enough).
But the thing is, there is no rule book saying that we have to be at a certain level in our lives or have to outdo others.
We just have to stay in our lanes and thrive the best we can.
So what should you do when the feeling of comparing comes up?
You change the habit by switching it up!
4 Things To Do Instead of Comparing
After concluding that comparison isn’t the solution, I had to find a way to switch that habit to a more positive one.
The technique I use goes hand in hand when changing my focus from negative to positive.
I use these 4 little reminders to snap myself out of it and seriously have changed my outlook on comparison.
Be Grateful for What You Have
This is one of those you have to practice and continue to practice but it changes the outlook in things.
It’s so easy to forget how far we’ve come and where we are going.
By getting grateful, you are letting go of the stresses, the burdens and the comparisons go.
Put on that attitude of gratitude and watch the feeling of comparison wash away!
Remember How Far You’ve Come & Where You’re Going
This one goes hand in hand with getting grateful.
Take a step back and look at your life.
Look how far you’ve come already!
Even with the ups and downs, they’ve made you who you are.
I once heard that it doesn’t matter if other people have done the same things as you, every person’s experience is different.
I challenge you to celebrate that and hug yourself for your story!
You Don’t Know What Others Have Been Through
There is a saying that goes “Stop comparing your chapter 5 to chapter 19.”
(Or something along those lines)
But it’s true.
We have to recognize that the people that we find ourselves comparing too, have their own stories.
It’s easy to say they have it all but behind the scenes, they may have had nothing before.
Just remember, you are going through a journey that many have taken before.
Don’t stop dreaming and going after your goals because the things you want are out there and you can have them if you want.
Celebrate Others Success’
Once you’ve put everything into perspective, celebrate others’ success too!
This also can serve as a form of law of attraction too!
By celebrating others’ success you will inturn be feeling the same for when you’re going after your goals and dreams and so much more! Take it from Addicted2Success.com
So that’s it!
Simple enough right?
I challenge you to use these 4 methods when you find yourself comparing.
It’s so easy to fall into the comparison trap but by using these switch-ups to turn things around, you’ll find what a world of difference it can make!
I want to hear from you! What are some things you find yourself comparing too and which method do you think would work best for you in that situation?
Let me know in the comments below!